Skirts. Dresses. Blouses. I’ve never really been a t-shirt and jeans type of person. One thing I’m really interested in are short skirts.
Yes, I said it: short skirts. It’s not a crime for a plus-sized gal to be able to slip into something slinky that sits a few inches above the knee, flirty and feminine. Or maybe a long skirt with a dangerously-high slit. I’m into sexy-looking clothes for evening wear, and unless I bump heads with the lingerie sites, I’m incapable of locating what I’m looking for.
So I’m turning to the greatest audience on earth — help! 
And an additional question — what’s your sexy?
And no, I actually did some checking online too
I cannot tell you how much I’m looking forward to this sizzling summer season that’s right around the corner. I’m thinking halter tops, tube tops, flouncy skirts, and dresses that go from day to night. Can I get a witness on that?
Winter time has brought Me nothing but ice storms and bra straps. Of course, when you’re fighting to stay warm, you aren’t thinking about the bra straps. But when the weather turns in your favor and it’s time to get some sun (and show a little skin!), you can’t throw on the same old bra with those big ol’ straps, can you?
I’m really starting to get on a strapless bra streak. I’ve found some that are comfy and actually hang on for dear life, instead of slipping down or flopping around. Of course, the straps aren’t leaving forever — there are so many dresses that need them!
I’ve had it up to hear with two things: the double-standard that’s being slung around about women’s sexuality, and our (albeit silent) acceptance of it all. What’s the matter with women looking, feeling, and otherwise being sexy? Does that stop us from being mothers, daughters, sisters, businesswomen, granddaughters, wives, friends, mentors, leaders, creatives?
I was talking with some ladies the other day (how all my stories start this way, I don’t know) about lingerie. They were shocked that I do pay attention to my lingerie, even though my fiancee isn’t around. It bothers me because I think that lingerie is both a private and quasi-public pleasure (OK, so my audience is 1 - it’s still an audience!) - why is it wrong to praise good lingerie?
I want bras that hug, embrace, caress, lift, and protect. I like color. Texture. Fabric is also a point of interest - give me satin, give me lace, give me soft fabrics that make time melt away!
Our greatest enemy seems to be ourselves. I can’t change the way people think, but I can change the way I talk about things. And I want sexy lingerie for me first.
Does it help or hurt that our thoughts of lingerie linger around sex? Are we quieter about corsets and hosiery than we are about camisoles and high-heels because it’s related to “that issue”? Or am I just missing out on the secret cabal of plus size lingerie blogs, where we vocal and verbose plus size fashion bloggers are really sermonizing?
In order to feel desirable, to feel loved, to feel good about ourselves, we have to start at the root. That root is us - not the media, not the stores (I actually did a post without striking at Charming….OK, maybe not), not family. US!
A wise woman told me once, “My dear, if you want to truly walk in this world and be substantial, you have two choices. You can either be a pretty girl or a smart girl. I’m not saying smart ladies can’t be beautiful, but if you go for the lipstick instead of the lecturn, you might just be more miserable than ever thought possible.”
Maybe in 2006 we’ll have it all, ladies.
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